When I talk with other moms about hobbies there are two major roadblocks: Time and Lack of Ideas.
Time seems obvious. There’s never enough time. For anything.
Except maybe there is. Especially when you find something that you love.
So let’s start there because that’s the heart of the matter. Finding a hobby you’ll love.
Why We Need Hobbies
First things first, why do you need a hobby? Maybe you don’t! You’re completely fulfilled at home and at work. You are doing activities that you enjoy and are filling your proverbial cup 80% of the time. If that sounds like you, AWESOME! Hat tip to you my friend.
But so many moms don’t have that.
There’s the mom who works outside the home at a job she likes, but doesn’t love. Or the mom who stays home with her kids and feels an itch to do something different. Then there’s the urge to create when you’re not creating. The urge to learn when you’re not learning. The urge to connect when you’re not connecting. All benefits that a hobby can provide.
If any of that rings true and you aren’t in the market for a full job change right now, a hobby might be where it’s at. And don’t worry – you don’t have to be a “momtrepreneur” for any of this.
Why Don’t We Have Hobbies?
So if hobbies can help us tap into the creative part of our brain, offer meditative benefits, teach new skills, and allow us meet interesting people, then why doesn’t everyone have a hobby? And to narrow in our focus, why don’t moms have hobbies?
Back in the day before kids we might have been bouncing around the world of hobbies because we had more free time. Or back up the dial even further, in our formal education we were offered up a slate of clubs and organizations to join that became the source of our hobby exploration. It was all teed up for us and we simply had to raise our hands to join. Easy peasy lemon hobby.
But when kids make their way onto the scene, our free time dwindles significantly and our mom guilt increases significantly. Time for ourselves? For shame!!! On top of that, that organized structure we once used to our advantage is still there, but it’s geared towards our kids. Mommy & Me Yoga, Mommy & Me Swim Lessons, Mommy & Me Archery. (Maybe?).
Very cool if you’ve tapped into an organized structure that works for your kids and for you, but if you haven’t then you aren’t alone. I like going to swim class with my kids, but that’s not my thing. I needed my thing.