A New Year’s Wish From Tuck Everlasting

Tuck Everlasting Resolution - New Year's Resolution about a lived life and going after hard things.


“Don’t be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life. You don’t have to live forever, you just have to live.” 
― Natalie Babbitt

I was in the fifth grade and Mrs Fitch was my teacher. She was well known as the toughest fifth grade teacher, but honestly I don’t know who we were all comparing her to. Moments earlier we had all been in elementary school and spent a good amount of time at recess or playing with each other’s hair in the library.

What we were probably reacting to was the rumor mill of older siblings, and the fact that we were graduating from gold stars to grades. The school work we did would now come back to us with an alphabetical ranking of our academic prowess. It seemed so grown up, frankly quite intimidating. If you had a teacher who didn’t mess around and had exceptionally high standards, well your little gold star loving heart might get crushed by a B. (Read: MY gold star loving heart.)

The first thing I remember hearing about Mrs. Fitch’s tough reputation was that she did not give out A+s. It just didn’t happen. No fifth grade masterpiece would ever reach perfection in her eyes. Looking back now I know for sure that hearing that influenced the rest of my schooling years. Perhaps, at the risk of being melodramatic, the rest of my life.

A- For Effort

I immediately took the “you can’t get an A+” statement as a personal challenge. A “oh you don’t tell me what I can and can’t achieve” challenge. So with each Mrs. Fitch Language Arts project I would sharpen my pencils, of the writing and coloring variety, to create something that would leave Mrs. Fitch awestruck. Much like the reaction Ralphie imagined his teacher would have about his “what I want for Christmas” theme. There would be gushing, perhaps a parade. But most importantly to me, an A+.

I kept missing the mark though. I got dangerously close and racked up a folder full of A-s and A regulars. My fifth grade reading comprehension and analysis was good, but not A+ great.

Then we read Tuck Everlasting, and I fell in love. The characters in the story were mesmerizing to me and I soaked up the innocent romance, the magic, the danger, and the deep message of it all. I remember minute details of this book, like the color of Winnie’s fence, Mae Tuck’s eyes, and how I imagined the water trickling by the tree to sound and taste.

I’m Going to Live Forever

The biggest driver of my fascination with Tuck Everlasting was the idea of living forever.

At age 10 I had experienced very little death in my life. I was quite young when my Great Grandparents passed, and everyone else I knew and loved was alive and well. So when I first learned about death I was shook. Someday I’ll die and then the world with continue without me? Forever? It was devastating and I remember many nights looking out my bedroom window trying to wrap my mind around it all.

Reading about the Tuck family living forever sparked some hope. Maybe it didn’t need to be this way. Then later it gave me comfort. Maybe it was okay that it was this way. Honestly it still helps when I get a little affected by the finality of it all to this day.

You Earned It

So when the time came to do a Tuck Everlasting project, I was all in. My colored pencils and I were in flow well before I knew what “flow” was. I’m sure I didn’t write anything that was going to change the course of the world in that project, but it was good. Maybe even great.

Mrs. Fitch handed me back my Tuck Everlasting project without a word. When I got to the last page and saw a small red A+ in grading ink, I ran back to her desk. Ever the polite kid, I said “Thank you for giving me an A+!” I’ll never forget how she responded. “I didn’t give you anything, Rebecca. You earned your grade.”

I’ve lived a very privileged existence. I am grateful for it, and I’ll never deny that everything I’ve accomplished in my life has been part determination, and part opportunity. But I also can’t downplay the lesson I learned in that classroom. No one is going to hand me what I want. If they do then it doesn’t mean the same as something I’ve truly earned. Something I’ve worked hard for, sacrificed for, and worn out my pencil sharpener for. Is it weird that I think Tom Hanks’ character in “A League of Their Own” said it best? “If it wasn’t hard everyone would do it. The hard, that’s what makes it great.” 

My New Year’s Wish For You

I’ve been thinking about Tuck Everlasting as we head into the new year because traditionally it’s a time of goal setting and a time of new beginnings. You make plans for the year ahead and imagine what your life might look like 365 days from now. There’s something very Tuck about embracing the time you have and making the most of it. And something very Mrs. Fitch’s fifth grade class about working hard to go after what you want.

So with some Tuck inspiration, I wish you a 2019 full of opportunity to achieve those goals. But I also wish you a 2019, and a life, of going after hard things. Hard things that you deeply want, that light a fire in you. It really doesn’t matter if that is becoming President, or getting tenure, or selling one of your paintings, or walking out of a meeting saying “I CRUSHED that.”

If it matters to you, and you’ve put your blood, sweat, and tears into it, then it’s worth it. That’s the stuff that makes up a truly lived life. And the hard, that’s what makes it great.

With love and best wishes for your 2019,

Becca Carnahan Blog

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